Untold Stories

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For decades, the issue of domestic violence (DV) lived in the shadows as a taboo topic. More recently, massive efforts have moved us past those misguided days, and instead, invite engagement in both private and public dialogue. As a result, a national conversation has been created around DV and more survivors of abuse are finding their way to the resources they need and deserve. However, truth be told, only some aspects of this very complex issue are discussed: the aspects that are easier to wrap our heads around, the people who we can relate to the most, and the situations that feel most comfortable to us. But there are many more important elements to raise awareness about, and many more people whose stories are still largely left untold.

In the months ahead, Emerge is committed to shining light on—and honoring—these untold stories. Our goal is to broaden and reshape the existing narrative by reflecting the experiences and needs of ALL abuse survivors in our community.

Below you’ll find three untold stories that will be released throughout October, as well as resources.

 


Survivors Who Choose to Stay

Beverly’s Story

The first untold story centers around those domestic abuse survivors who choose to stay in their relationship. This piece, written by Beverly Gooden, was originally published by the Today Show in 2014. Gooden is the creator of the #whyistayed movement, which began after the “why doesn’t she leave” question was repeatedly asked of Janay Rice, after a video surfaced of her husband, Ray Rice (formerly of the Baltimore Ravens), physically assaulting Janay. Read Beverly’s letter to herself here.

How to Support a Loved One

It’s not easy to see our loved ones suffering from domestic abuse, but it is important—sometimes life-saving—to be there for them. Learn how to provide the best support to somebody by giving the best of you. Read more here.

 

Community Resources

The Emerge hotline is available to survivors, as well as friends and family who are concerned about someone experiencing abuse and want to know more about ways to be supportive. Emerge 24 Hour Multilingual Hotline: 520.795.4266 or (888)428-0101

 


DV Survivors Who Die by Suicide

Release Date: October 7, 2019

Mark and Mitsu’s Story

This week’s rarely told story is about domestic abuse victims who die by suicide. Mark Flanigan recounts the experience of supporting his dear friend Mitsu, who would have been 30 years this coming Friday, but unfortunately died by suicide one day after disclosing to him that she was in an abusive relationship.

Read Mark and Mitsu’s story.
Studies show that women who experience domestic abuse are seven times more likely to experience thoughts of suicide when compared to individuals who do not experience violence.
In this article, you’ll find ways to support someone who’s living with abuse. Learn how to recognize the warning signs of domestic violence and suicide and find the resources available to support loved ones living. Read more

Community Resources: 

For domestic abuse support, your loved one can call Emerge’s 24/7 multilingual hotline anytime at 520-795-4266 or 1-888-428-0101.

For suicide prevention, Pima County has a community-wide crisis line: (520) 622-6000 or 1 (866) 495-6735.

There’s the National Suicide Hotline (which also includes a chat feature, if that’s more accessible): 1-800-273-8255

 

 


Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls

Release Date: October 14, 2019

Supporting Indigenous Women & Girls

April Ignacio, a citizen of the Tohono O’odham Nation and the founder of Indivisible Tohono, shares her experience connecting with families in her community whose mothers, daughters, sisters or aunts had either gone missing or lost their lives to violence.

Read April’s full article

Community Resources: Our Work, Our Stories by the Urban Indian Health Institute